Most people would agree that it is healthy and expected that a widow/widower will talk about their late spouse. At the same time, such talk seems to make hearers uncomfortable. Friends and family will even assume that the widow/widower is stuck, not “moving on”, and still actively grieving.
Loss seeps into and touches everything, even the most mundane thing. Friends and family who come alongside and do the life thing with a widow significantly lighten the burden and help with healing.
Changing the conversation from passive to active. Instead of asking what we need or telling us to “let you know if…”, offer to come:
When a widow is steeped in the fog of grief, it is not your job or responsibility to pull them out. That is not what they need. A widow needs time to feel and grieve and process.
Today, I’m thankful for my life. See, four years ago, I almost bled to death.
I used to think about and ponder what I’d be doing on this day, this week in this year.
I’d imagined many ways in which I’d spend my 25th wedding anniversary.
Sometimes, you need to chew on scripture a little and let it really speak to you.
Oh, I know. It’s Jonah. He was flawed, but obedient. Well…
Life sometimes feels like we’re the puzzle piece being shifted around, never finding where we fit.
How are you? Three words that I dread hearing; that make me freeze and back peddle and fumble with words. Why?
Stuff. It’s just that. Stuff. Inanimate objects we assign value or usefulness. However, when your spouse dies, “stuff” all of a sudden becomes something heavier.