It’s okay to consider, accept, and even look forward to “bests yet to come”. If there are no more “best ever” moments, days, or experiences out there, then what’s the point? No, I believe there are still bests to come.

As a widow, it’s so difficult to think like that. It’s even harder to accept, if we’re experiencing one. But let me encourage you –

New bests do not take away from the bests that were.

There are probably many out there who would judge widows for acknowledging that we’re experience a “best ever” in the aftermath of our spouse’s death. That is so not helpful. I mean, do people expect widows to live out the remainder of their lives in mediocrity? Do they even consider what their judgment (silent or voiced) says about them, let alone what it does to the struggling thoughts of the widow?  I doubt it. And enough about what others might think.

Dear widow – live. Thrive. Embrace and experience all the bests that the Lord is offering you. They are built upon the bests that have been. If your late spouse had survived, the same would be true – you would be building new bests upon the previous ones, adding to the joy of your life. Whether you are experiencing new bests with a new love, on your own, or with friends, you are not, let me repeat, you are not discounting, dishonoring, or invalidating the bests that have been. Embrace the gifts, the new bests, before you, it is part of how you honor the previous love and life – by continuing to live and love.

James :17 “Every generous act and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights;”

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