Most people would agree that it is healthy and expected that a widow/widower will talk about their late spouse. At the same time, such talk seems to make hearers uncomfortable. Friends and family will even assume that the widow/widower is stuck, not “moving on”, and still actively grieving.
Loss seeps into and touches everything, even the most mundane thing. Friends and family who come alongside and do the life thing with a widow significantly lighten the burden and help with healing.